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I used to ask whats wrong. Try to console my son, massage, he would throw himself backwards on the ground and repeatedly bang his head off cement, asphalt dirt, bricks, he don't care. When he'd clam down he'd be fine like nothing happen. When hi's clam I try to talk with him again about his actions and everything is someone else made him to do it? Not acknowledging even happened at all.
Thank goodness his only had 2 minor concussions, it's become a little less nowadays but still bangs his head on his wall or door in his room, which is alot safer. He has say in more recent years a few times that it helps him feel better. Gives me a headache but makes himself feel better? hmmmm who knows
If escalates I walk away because when I confront my son it'll escalate into a very physical situation. Then his version is so different. Even trying to restrain him has become more difficult at times because he puts up such a fight it's difficult to get that close to him. By ignoring the negative behaviors such as these tantrums seem to have reduced the frequency but still his 9 1/2 yo and still doing them.
I'm getting work out!!
I was trained to ignore the negative behaviors and praise the positive. I Dont always agree there are times that the child just needs a simple hug (if the child will allow). Although that's when I'd get ridiculed and that I'm babying my son and caused the negative behaviors, so it's my fault?!
Sometimes I can just redirect the behaviors. Rediction can sometimes go a long way :)
Also being aware of how to choose your battles with the tantrums, knowing which to ignore and which to confront. Takes a lot of practice and educating yourself.
I can certainly relate to you but curious as to how do you deal with the behavioral Amy?
how old is he? He's doesn't try to fight you?
That used to work when my son was younger
that time out pad looks awesome! Not sure my 9 1/2 yo old would use it though
I'm having a extremely difficult time with him and trying to have the drs find a way to help is even more frustrating. They only seem to want me to understand what he's feeling and going through and lack of skills. Which believe me I do understand but sometimes feel is no excuse for behaviors with these tantrums when he doesn't get his way. He has no empathy what so ever.
Hi! My son (12) gets very anxious and he gets very upset and whines, cries and sometimes will throw something. I decided to develop a portable, calming, therapeutic wrap (not a vest) for children with Autism, Anxiety and SPD. I use this when he gets in those anxious and out of control behaviors and it works fantastic! Within 2 minutes or more, he calms down, is happy and he can talk about his behavior calmly. Watch for it as School Specialties Group is actually working on this project with me currently to get it on the market! Please write to them and ask about it...I call it the Love Hugger...it's been just over a year and this product would help many of your children, so any support on getting this going would be great!!! Your child will love this product...sometimes my son wears it just because he wants that good, calm feeling it gives him...it really works!! Wendy